“Abandonment is a severe trauma that holds a soul in captivity for a very long time and may cause a great escape from life’s pain and fears. Abandonment hits hard. It seems that our choice is then reaction or proaction.”
I was watching an interview on television with author, Brad Meltzer, concerning his latest book. He stated that the aunt of the late Jerome Siegel, who was the original creator of Superman as a character for comic books, had told him of a dream that Siegel had as a liitle boy, after the shooting death of his father, Mitchel. This dream supposedly began what we know about the famed super-hero. Quoting Meltzer: “In 1932, Mitchell Siegel was killed by three gunshots to his chest. While mourning, his son dreamed of a bulletproof man and created the world’s greatest hero: Superman.”
Jerry Siegel is said to have dreamed of of bullet proof man in a defensive response to the terrible loss of his father. Whether this be a true story or not, it is apparent that the feelings of loss – abandonment can definitely give way to dreams of super normal life. Super-Heros can become a need for orphans, since they don’t believe their fathers are able to protect themselves or their children. It is like a search for pseudo-fathering that can actually be controlled by the orphaned child so that loss is prohibitive even in the face of danger.
In other words, I wonder how much of our intrigue with super normal life might actually be and escape from the fear of loss? Then when, as Job said, “The thing that I feared the most has come upon me,” and loss in normal life occurs, is it the orphan spirit that drives some even deeper into a fantasy of super life? Do we escape into our imaginations by defense? I believe this is a popular way of dealing with life and is a real destroyer of faith in Jesus Christ.
The orphan spirit can even bait a child to come out of the dreams that are given them by their loving heavenly Father and into the world of fantasy. Thus, the “I’m gonna be a rock star, I’m going to be president, I’m going to be rich and famous!” loses all sense of substance. Those who actually become those things in life are hard workers and they can plot a roadway to get there. Those who fantasize will only speak of billowy clouds of what they wish to be. We must be cognizant that fantasy and dreams are not the same, and faith is not the result of fantasy, it is the result of love.
Abandonment is a severe trauma that holds a soul in captivity for a very long time and may cause a great escape from life’s pain and fears. Abandonment hits hard. It seems that our choice is then reaction or proaction.
Here is what Jesus said to His disciples about His death and leaving them: “Are you inquiring among yourselves about what I said, ‘A little while, and you will not see Me; and again a little while, and you will see Me?’ Most assuredly, I say to you that you will weep and lament, but the world will rejoice; and you will be sorrowful, but your sorrow will be turned into joy. A woman, when she is in labor, has sorrow because her hour has come; but as soon as she has given birth to the child, she no longer remembers the anguish, for joy that a human being has been born into the world. Therefore you now have sorrow; but I will see you again and your heart will rejoice, and your joy no one will take from you.” John 16: 19 – 22 (NKJV)
The power of love and life overcomes death and abandonment! Love is not fantasy. Loss and even death in this world is going to be part of all of our lives. It is necessary for us to substantiate and solidify the loving presence of our heavenly Father in our lives in proaction to the losses so that we never lose.
From when a friend moves away, to a loving family that is leaving the church to go to another, or even someone near and dear to us dies, we do not hold on, we do not grieve unendingly, we do not fantasize of how things ought to be different, and we certainly do not lose ourselves in the fanasies of another kind of existence.
It is the love of the Father that we must receive and trust in. That love will cause faith to arise and we will never be without no matter how few earthly things it seems that we may have. Let us rid ourselves of the fears of doing without. Let us trust in our heavenly Father and show Him our faith in overcoming the world, with joy – His joy made full in us!
“Father in heaven, I trust in You with my whole heart. Sanctify the pictures and images of my heart and my mind with the overwhelming, overcoming power of Your love. Speak to me in vision and in dream and show me the paths of our walk together. I trust in You at every turn in the pathways of life with You. I know that many of the loves of my life will take other paths at different times and different seasons, but I truly want the best for them, even as I know that my very best is found in You. My heart can only be wounded by the unbelief that is received by me, but my faith arising is the balm that heals! My knowledge of Your love – Your goodness and Your power to cause the future to take place is what I will trust in. I am Your child. I will walk the wonderful and glorious paths of life with You for ever and ever. Amen.”
“It is His promise not to ever abandon us! So, who’s report will you believe? Your mind, your intellect, your thoughts? Or, the promise of your heavenly Father!”
From the beginning the devil, who is the serpent of old, Satan himself, has deliberately made mankind feel as though they are abandoned by God the Father. To this day, his wicked spirit taunts us all, saying that we have been left for something that God must think is of greater importance.
We are left to be battered in our minds with thoughts of abandonment and we view things as if God has better things to do with His day than to hang out with us. Yet, He will “never leave us or forsake us!” It is His promise not to ever abandon us! So, who’s report will you believe? Your mind, your intellect, your thoughts? Or, the promise of your heavenly Father!
In the natural sense of life, when a child is totally abandoned for any reason, we call them orphans. Some are abandoned by wicked and self-centered parents. Others by accidents and death. Many by the ravages of war, genocide and abject poverty. It still amazes me how we can never have been effected by any of these travesties and yet we think like orphans and act like those who have no help or guidance at all.
Rejection is carried about by us only because we listen to the voice of abandonment that the evil spirit of death and hell has shouted into our minds. We listen to that voice so much that we think that we have no Father at all. Yet, He is the Father of lights. We are the lights, ya know. We are cities that are set upon a hill that give light to the valleys and terrain about us.
There is surely a spirit that is sent against those who will inherit salvation that brings about a life of rejection if it gets its way. Rejection is among the most painful things that the human soul can endure. Rejection will bring about the most erratic behavior in some and hide behind the need of perfection in others. This spiritual force of evil that is sent against us to produce the pain of rejection is a lie from the father of all lies.
But the truth is that the Father has accepted us and rejection is impossible. Rejection cannot take place when we have been accepted and not rejected by our heavenly Father.
I believe that we must capture the feelings of rejection as they show themselves. Question yourself: What does rejection feel like? Do we reject others so that we don’t have to feel the hurt of the rejection that we know is eminent? Do we behave in ways that will produce rejection quickly so that we can just get it over with? The questions of rejection are answered by our belonging to the Father. He has never abandoned us. He has come to rescue us.
Hold on to your joy with all that you’ve got. Do not trade it for anything. Do not let it be purchased for the price of uncomfortable circumstances, or financial troubles. Your joy is a precious treasure to you.
“Father of lights! I know that You love me and I am Your child, the apple of Your eye, in the center of Your focus, and the object of Your affection at all times. Even when I do not “feel” You, I know You are here with me. I wish to thank You and acknowledge Your presence with me now. Surrounding me with Your being – right where I am sitting! Your love and peace they comfort me exceedingly! I am Yours. I am not ever rejected by You and any and every bit of evidence that would try to sway me into thinking otherwise I recognize to be a lie. You have not abandoned me. So, I will stop abandoning You, Papa. I will walk with Your Spirit and not leave You. I am not an orphan and have never been an orphan. I will help orphans find You! Thank You, Papa, for being You and being with me! Amen.”
